For many of us, sex is a vital and deeply connecting aspect of our intimate relationship.
When it goes wrong, and we start to have the same repetitive arguments, or we give up hope and stop having sex completely, we can feel lonely and hopeless.
I believe that talking about sex and intimacy is an essential part of couples counselling – if you want it to be. When we turn up for help in our relationship we must be able to talk about sex, and explore the issues in a completely safe environment.
Because sex is so loaded with meaning, emotion and often shame too, it can feel as if it’s too hard and too risky to talk about. And often, we have no idea where to start.
Sometimes, we are just bored and don’t want the sex we’re having anymore. You may struggle with different expectations and different levels of desire – or no desire at all. Disappointment can also be heavy.
You might be an older couple, struggling with physical changes, and maybe pain too. Adapting to those physical changes is an essential part of our developing sexual journey. There doesn’t have to be an end to the journey. It can be creative and fun for as long as you want.
I am particularly interested in relational sexuality, in exploring together gently and kindly. I like to think in terms of what is missing rather than what is wrong. I will help you explore the desires and feelings that your mind may have robbed you of. With a sex positive attitude, I will help you find your no and your yes. I will help you talk together with care and kindness, and above all, curiosity.
Get in touch for an initial chat to see how we might work together.