If you are stuck in destructive and repetitive patterns I can help you move on by promoting and maintaining an environment in which it is safe to lower the defences and to explore the underlying issues.
Perhaps you can’t talk about your difficulties anymore without things escalating between you. Or you have just stopped trying because you think you know what to expect.
We will unpack the dynamics of your relationship issues, without blame, in order to give the two of you choices that you may have lost sight of. I will help you define yourselves to one another. We will talk about the differences you once loved, but now fear, and help you turn them into a gift again.
My interest is in the connection between you. The loss of it is the most common reason that people seek help. We will look at the reasons for the loss and how the cycle of disappointment, hurting and being hurt is being maintained. Once you have understood your personal relational style, I will teach you new tools to safely communicate your thoughts, feelings, desires and beliefs. Openness and honesty restore trust which is essential to rebuilding and maintaining your connection, and restoring intimacy.
I can help you create a new vision for working through the difficult bits together and inspire a new magic unique to the two of you.
Some of the issues I have successfully worked with:
- Inability to talk without fighting
- Conflicting expectations
- Incompatible sexual desire
- Destructive conflict patterns
- Loss of trust
- Abuse and trauma and the effect on current relationships
Some of the things I aim to address:
- The essential elements of being both autonomous and connected
- Honest and collaborative communication
- Growth through conflict
- Better understanding of each other’s desires
- Improved sexual relationship
- Your vision for your relationship
My fee is £80 for 60 minutes and I offer sessions of 60, 90 or 120 minutes according to what you prefer.
Get in touch for an initial chat to see how we might work together.